We get asked this question all the time, and we can tell you: Yes, of course!
Voices are unique to each person (even as unique as a fingerprint). Some are calm and soothing, others vibrate with excitement and anticipation, some remind you of home, while others evoke dreams of foreign and exotic pleasures. In addition, each voice naturally has the ability to change and adapt to any situation, so it can evoke a wide variety of feelings from us in a wide variety of situations.
We at Voiyal believe that the power of the medium “voice” is still massively underestimated — especially when it is perceived alone / without a picture and only then can unfold its full, intimate energy.
Let’s be honest…
We all know from our own experience that a person’s voice, their language, their (French) accent, the way they emphasize different words — often have quite a hot effect!
To better understand this attraction of certain voices, maybe we should take a look at some other fetishes that could play a role here…
“Auralism” is defined as sexual arousal or excitement by sound. Similar to “voyeurism” (= sexual arousal by sight), auralism is a general term that can refer to any type of sound that people find sexually arousing, from music to sex noises to full blown audio porn.
“Acoustophilia” goes a step further and describes a tendency for people to be aroused by any type of auditory stimulus. This can be talking or moaning, but also heavy breathing, panting, or the sound of a zipper being pulled open.
In a way, I guess we all have a touch of each of these tendencies — don’t we all get aroused when we hear our lover moaning our name or hear our hot neighbor having sex? C’mon, you’ve thought the same thing before, haven’t you?
The classic “language fetish”
From a scientific point of view, we don’t have too much to say about this, but our own experiences coincide with those of hundreds of thousands of users on Reddit (with Germans at the top) and on message boards. Everywhere, countless situations are reported of how a language or an accent from a certain part of the world has set everyone’s emotions ablaze.
Intimate & unique
So, to sum up, we can definitely talk about a “voice fetish”, which combines all these things and describes being sexually aroused by the sound of other people’s voices.
But here’s the thing about this particular fetish: they are inherently unique and very individual. Two people who have a voice fetish are therefore very unlikely to like the same kind of voice. From our own experience as passionate voice connoisseurs, we therefore suspect that it is precisely this individuality in taste that is a very special attraction about it after all.
A charm that turns you on in a way you can’t quite describe, completely unique to you and equally difficult to reproduce. Often not even from a general accent or a whole language, but just from that one voice.
For people (like us) who have such an inclination, it’s not just something they enjoy, but something that brings out another part of them. It allows them to escape into a different, imaginative world, accompanied by a voice they immediately trust and feel safe with, a voice they know can bring them pleasure and satisfaction.
100x more intimate than any other digital experience
Experiencing something erotic that falls outside of the typical visual spectrum is exciting and remarkable, and fortunately not at all uncommon in today’s world.
Erotic, auditory content has seen a huge resurgence in the last three years, though the idea of listening to erotica instead of watching it has been around for much longer. Yet such audios can include all sorts of things: The intimate recording of a moan, someone telling a hot story, or “just” a couple having sex.
Anyone who has ever had sex knows that everything always feels different when you close your eyes and imagine it.
The attraction that voices exert on us and the reactions they trigger in us are not new. In fact, it was the ancient Greeks who were the first in history to study the human voice. They were fascinated by the differences in our vocal spectrum and the effects that spectrum has on our emotions.
According to The Guardian, in the 2nd century AD, a man named Julius Pollux attempted to map the full spectrum of the human voice. Although very little of his work survives, there is a detailed list describing how voices can range from engaging or weak to persuasive and even melodious, with Pollus even noting that the latter gave the impression of a more cultured person.
For centuries we have known that the way we speak can be fascinating, that it can evoke certain emotions, and that it can serve to communicate more than just the words we choose. In fact, up to 38% of human communication happens only through the pure sound of the voice. Words make up only 7% of the content and body language accounts for the remaining 55% (source: Speakingaboutpresenting).
More than two millennia later, a 21st century collection of data allows us to understand what makes certain voices seem truly soothing, exciting, or appropriate. A company called Jobalign has developed technology that can predict how a person’s voice will affect someone. Studies done with this technology show that it is up to 75% accurate.
So what makes a voice soothing?
Research shows that certain cues in speech (called paralinguistic elements) are important when it comes to evoking certain emotions in listeners. Low-frequency, continuous tones, for example, are much more soothing than intermittent tones.
Without face-to-face contact, we also rely heavily on intonation (the pattern of pitch changes in a voice) as well as certain speech patterns to determine whether or not a voice sounds trustworthy.
Intonation is very important, with male voices that have a low pitch and follow a rising melodic trend being considered untrustworthy, the study found. The same is true for deep female voices, which tend to betray when speaking.
Jennifer Pardo, a speech communication and phonetics researcher at Montclair State University, explains, “Speech rate seems to be one of the most reliable features when it comes to how people judge a person. For example, we perceive how long segments are when they speak. In general, people who speak a little slower tend to be perceived as friendly or benevolent, while we often associate people who speak a little faster with things like competence and authority…”
How does this speech analysis work?
Jobalign’s approach to voice analysis has been to identify interactions between a number of different characteristics — from pitch to energy accumulated over time — which are then combined to give each voice its own unique signature.
Jobalign CEO Luis Salazar explains, “Every person has a core voice signature that is made up of a number of characteristics. To see what I mean, listen to Leonardo DiCaprio passionately shouting in Wolf of Wall Street [here], and then listen to him in one of the romantic scenes in Titanic when he was much younger [here]. The core of the voice is the same, but when we look at the energy accumulated in a certain frequency range and combine it with other acoustic elements, that voice is above the threshold that the average listener in the U.S. would find very pleasant.“
Using this logic, we can assume that a voice like DiCaprio’s will always be distinctly pleasant, no matter what role he plays or how he uses his voice. Anyone who has seen DiCaprio’s films must admit that this is quite true.
So now at the latest it should really dawn and tingle: Voice fetishism really exists. It can even be a combination of several things. You may find someone’s voice soothing, calming, or attractive, but when that voice says exactly what you want to hear right now (we’re talking naughty, dirty, lusty stuff), things get really serious.
A 2004 study found that people who reported being more sexually experienced and active were rated as more attractive voices by strangers. So if you feel like you don’t have a super sexy voice, don’t worry — not only will someone out there most likely find your voice attractive (as opinions on this can vary greatly from person to person, even if the basics of vocal attraction remain the same), but you can still learn to change our voices.
How to control and adjust your voice.
All of this begs the question: If you naturally have a dominant, quick voice that doesn’t necessarily inspire confidence and friendliness, can you learn to change the way you speak? Good news: Yes.
According to the same article, the right voice signature for a given situation largely depends on how much control you have over different aspects of your voice, i.e. speaking a little slower or quieter in certain situations.
In the Guardian article linked above, this is compared to the way a person walks — it’s not just about the size of your limbs, but how well you can move them. A dancer would move very differently than a non-dancer. So active training to improve musculature and flexibility in the area around your larynx and vocal cord is very possible.
Finally, we may even change the way we speak without realizing it. Women sometimes unconsciously change their voice to sound more attractive during the most fertile phase of their menstrual cycle, and men also sometimes change their voice when confronted with potential competitors in dating situations.
In the end, it’s all about intimacy (and trust).
There’s a reason your spouse’s voice can put you at ease like no other… because it can literally put you at ease like no other voice. It’s called phonetic convergence. People who speak to each other frequently end up sounding more and more similar without even realizing these small changes.
These similarities can show up in things like the rate of speech, pitch, intonation patterns we use, or even the way we produce sounds. This kind of voice adaptation explains why some people “lose” their native accent when they move abroad, only to pick it up again when they return to their home country.
What makes a sexy voice?
A 1979 study shows that most of us think a deep voice is sexy. Participants in this study were asked to speak in a “sexy” voice, and both men and women “greatly reduced the pitch of their voices,” with women dropping their voices significantly lower than men.
While part of this study has been proven correct in later studies (the fact that women prefer lower voices in men), it was actually suggested (with this 2013 study) that men prefer women with higher voices, apparently alluding to femininity.
However, a more recent study (2018) suggests that the first study from 1979 was correct: both men and women find lower voices sexier.
So…which one is IT?
Well, that’s a tricky question, because there isn’t just one answer. Much like we all have certain qualities in a lover that we find attractive or unattractive, we all have vocal qualities that we are either drawn to or attracted to.
What we like sexually can sometimes be attributed to certain events, but sometimes there seems to be no reason for it. It can be difficult to find a voice that is trusted, and we are constantly looking for it. The nice-looking man who made us feel good about buying a new car or switching cable providers, the female customer service representative whose calm voice kept our cool in a frustrating situation.
And when you find that kind of connection with someone through their words in audio porn, or really any kind of adult content, it creates a very special intimate connection — not just between narrator and listener, but between two people who have shared something very personal.
Long story short: Your voice is damn sexy and other people would undoubtly pay to listen…
Inspired by sofiagray.com.